It’s time I spilled the Cheerios….

The pregnancy that never ends…

Wow. It’s been 3 months since I’ve written. How is that possible? Well I could give a number of reasons, pretty legitimate reasons, why it just hasn’t happened…. but the biggest reason is that I was avoiding it. Weird, right? But now it’s time to get real. Get vulnerable. It’s time I spilled the Cheerios.

Since I gave birth to Madison, I haven’t been doing so great. Sure, I’ve found a wonderful outlet with Rodan + Fields, gotten closer to friends, have watched my sons grow into little boys, have watched my daughter grow from a newborn to an infant, bought a new house and much more. Those things have been WONDERFUL (distractions).

Life seems great. Life is great. But something is wrong (with me). I mean it in the most sincerity…. something is wrong with me. Those of you that have followed our story know Madison’s pregnancy was “exciting”. It was full of ups and downs and I was emotionally a wreck. Then we had Hurricane Harvey just a few days before giving birth which made her birth story, crazy and slightly stressful. And really I thought it would end after that. I thought all I would have to do between her birth and now would be trying to keep my sanity and raise 3 kids under 3 years old and trying to lose enough weight before my sister’s wedding at the end of February.

Well, somehow different plans have been drawn and I am scared shitless.

Since Madison’s birth:

1. I have had two D&C surgeries.

2. I have been told I might need a hysterectomy after I woke up from my first D&C procedure.

3. AND TMI, I have worn a pad almost every day since she’s been born.

4. I have tirelessly thought about our future family plans.

5. I have considered surrogacy for our last two embryos.

All of these 5 things have consumed me over the last (almost) 5 months. CONSUMED ME. Now I am busy in my day-to-day so I can’t exactly think about it on and on BUT mentally it’s always there.

So what’s wrong? Well, essentially, I somehow have had retained placenta left in my uterus from Madison’s birth. Yep. I didn’t know it could happen with someone who’s had a c-section (let alone two), but it has. I am just as shocked that I was on day one when the OB told me that was a possibility. I really can’t even explain how it happened because honestly no one can explain it to me and I have seen many doctors. Essentially, I haven’t really stopped bleeding since I gave birth. It comes and goes in waves. But it never really stops. So how can you move on when this is happening? You can’t. Or, at least, I can’t.

To put it bluntly, it’s been a nightmare. A nightmare I don’t think I wanted to face or make real by writing it down. But I’m ready. 

Since my second D&C (that I slightly regret doing), I have changed doctors and received a tentative diagnosis. I have been diagnosed with sub-involution of the uterus. Basically, my uterus was having a hard time healing from the pregnancy. It’s a consequence of having retained placenta (go figure). The diagnosis is hard to come to and doing the D&C’s actually lengthened the time my uterus needs to heal because, hello, surgery just aggravates it. But I praise God for this new doctor. I have actually been treated with two  rounds of antibiotics because it was suspected I also had endometritis (inflammation of the uterus) and now am on an estrogen/progesterone treatment to hopefully heal my lining of my uterus. My last scan does show I have some more scar tissue or possible more placenta particles. But we won’t know the state of everything until I have a hysteroscopy sometime in March.

Curious about the pathology report from the second D&C I had – yep. More placenta. Did I tell you this was a nightmare?   

So March. Madison will be 6 months old before I know what is the outcome of all this treatment. I will be 6 months into this 3 children gig. Definitely not something I have been happy about. Definitely not something I have been able to really come to terms with until now.

The worst part is that I don’t know what’s going to happen. The worst part is that I don’t know how this will affect our future family plans until March and really, maybe not until we are ready to transfer the next embryo. The worst part is that I don’t know if my next pregnancy will be my last or if this one was my last one. The worst part is we just DON’T KNOW.

What I do know:

  1. My body is shot. I definitely need a big break until we try again.
  2. If there is an inch of belief that my next pregnancy could be my last, we will transfer the two embryos.
  3. If there is a compromise to my uterus that could affect me carrying, we will consider surrogacy.

Is this stuff easy to think about? HELL NO. I am scared out of my mind but I believe with my whole heart that all of the lives we created deserve a chance. I believe with my whole heart we are supposed to have 5 children. I believe with my whole heart that whatever happens, we will be okay. I will be okay. I do believe that. It doesn’t mean I’m not scared. It doesn’t mean I am not angry about it. It doesn’t mean I’m consumed by it. It doesn’t mean I have all the right answers or know how to fix it.

I just KNOW I have two more lives worth fighting for and that’s all I need to know. 


“This really troubled me, so I asked the Lord about it.
‘Lord, you said once I decided to follow you,
You’d walk with me all the way.
But I noticed that during the saddest and most troublesome times of my life,
there was only one set of footprints.
I don’t understand why, when I needed You the most, You would leave me.’

He whispered, ‘My precious child, I love you and will never leave you
Never, ever, during your trials and testings.
When you saw only one set of footprints,
It was then that I carried you.'”

— Excerpt from Footprints in the Sand


Until next time,


Are you a super mom?

Mom memes and more

So, it’s been another busy week…. does it ever slow down? I’m thinking not especially when you are actively adding humans to the human race. 🙂 Anyway, I was fixin’ to sit at my computer in desperate need to blog today and I thought SUPER MOMS. What are super moms anyway? Does it mean we get everything done on our to-do list? Dinner is ready? Home cooked? Everyone showered? And have a smile on our face? Is it all of the above? Is it some but not all? Seems like so much pressure. Haha. I mean I’m sure there are tons of different types of super moms but society has their own way to dictate what a super mom is so let’s explore that.


I love this meme. The reason I love it is because I’m not sure any one of these pictures is really realistic, yet there are many moms who can see themselves in one of these 6 images. If you take out the caption, it is actually a great representation of the many looks of motherhood. It doesn’t encompass everything but it’s a good start. However, my look of motherhood, tends to stay in the bottom right corner image. CRAP everywhere! 


And in the midst of writing this blog – this is my view. Yep. Real life people. No, I don’t clean up after my kids until the END OF THE DAY. WHY WASTE YOUR TIME PEOPLE? It’s going to get messed up after the nap so as long as I have a walkway, I’m good! (And yes, I’m catching up on Pretty Little Liars) Ha! Plus I am way too busy to pick up toys all the time. But more power to you if you like to do that.

Anyway back to the meme, well, I don’t really know what my friends think I do. But life at home, now running two direct sales businesses, being pregnant with the BEST PREGNANCY EVER (sense the sarcasm), and whatever else is going on isn’t easy. I have to fit as many things in ONE nap session and I usually don’t know how long it will last. #momlife But then, I think about my working mom friends – WHOA! I do NOT know how they do that! I tried for a short second working part time out of the house and immediately hated it. It’s just not for me and we are blessed by being able to make some ends meet while I’m home. Either choice isn’t easy. Either choice comes with sacrifices and I honestly believe comparing these choices isn’t healthy and it’s downright petty. It doesn’t matter in the real scheme of things. #momsunite


But regardless, I think MOST of us moms definitely have starts and finishes to these days described above pretty regularly – as long as we didn’t have a bad night, that is. HA! I can’t help but laugh because my days DEFINITELY look like this. I think many of us start off as super moms but end like Cruella! LOL! If you don’t have a Cruella day, well, more power to you and I probably won’t believe you, especially if you have any age kids in the house.

I feel like I’m more like this mom meme coming up next.


This one literally had me laughing out loud. I mean I have some friends that don’t censor their language around their kids. I don’t know how I really feel about it BUT their philosophy is that they are teaching their kids what are adult words and what words are kid words. And I have never heard a bad word come out of their mouth, ever. Honestly, can you blame the kid if he or she used it in the right context!?! I certainly wouldn’t. Haha!

Anyway, let’s talk about pregnant super moms…..


Now I would love to say that I feel like this super mom….. ummmm I don’t. Not even close. Yes, growing a human is something I’m eternally grateful for but it doesn’t make it any less easy. I’m just not blessed to have easy pregnancies. I’m starting to accept that but you wouldn’t see me wearing anything close to this outside of my house. LOL!


I pretty much feel like this! Seriously. I’m short and well nothing fits well – not even maternity clothes sometimes. #preggoproblems I would love to be able to take some maternity photos but the idea that I would look like this, I think not. Anyone else feel like this when they are pregnant?


Then there are the whole pregnancy lies people share – you know the ones that we are share with each other to comfort one another. THIS ONE – I’m still waiting on the energy boost. I don’t know if it’s the whole pregnancy thing or the whole twin mom thing but TIRED is an understatement.

Regardless of the type of super mom you are or even if you don’t feel like a super mom, YOU ARE! If you manage to keep everyone, including yourself, happy, healthy and fed – I think you are doing a great job!

Now get those kids to bed, pour yourself a glass of wine (or two) and get ready for another day….



Here’s to all the super moms,